On Letting Go

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Much has been written about the importance of letting go, but in practice, it is easier said than done. Let go, yes—but how?

As many of us already know, holding onto something anchors us with its heavy weight to past circumstances or relationships, and keeps us in the same unsavory energy that the past moments or energy held. A situation or relationship is a container of energy, similar to a room. When we keep thinking of something or someone in the past over and over, it circulates the energy within that room and perpetuates its momentum, keeping it alive and active within us and within our vibrational field, which also attracts more of the same circumstances to us. If we keep coming back to the same past event, relationship, or circumstances, this is a sign that we may have unhealed wounds around it and energetic cording that keeps us attached to it. This creates an energy leak that saps our vitality and life force, and drains our creative energy. Many times, it also prevents us from moving on into something better and into a happier life and strong, rewarding relationships.

There are many ways we can go about letting go, moving on, and healing. The methods that work for you depend on many factors, including what you respond to, the depth of healing needed, and your readiness to move on, to name a few. Beginning with setting the intention that you wish to heal and move on from the particular energies, situation, or relationship is the first and most important step. When you make this declaration, whether by writing it down, meditating on it, or speaking it aloud, you are setting forth the energy of intention to release, clear, and heal. This in turn establishes a momentum that will continue to build and grow. Calling on your team of light, your allies in spirit, is always recommended. Archangel Michael is a powerful ally when it comes to clearing, release, and cord-cutting, and can help you with letting go. Archangel Raphael is a master healer who works with the heart and will help you to heal on all levels. We have only to ask for the assistance of our allies, and they are ready to support us immediately. Because we have free will, they cannot interfere and so are awaiting our request.

One method of clearing cords is to first get into a meditative state and call in your allies for protection, strength, and support. You can begin by visualizing a protective sphere of golden light surrounding you on all sides, three feet above and three feet below you, and around you in a sphere that reaches past your fingertips when you have your arms outstretched. Eyes closed, you can visualize or feel where any cords might be connected to you. Do you feel pressure in a certain area of your body? Depending on your particular abilities, you may be able to see it or have a knowing of where it is. Consider its significance in light of where it is located. Something connected to the sacral chakra can be tied to past romantic relationships; if it is near the heart, it could be associated with heartbreak; something near the root chakra could be related to familial connections or your sense of security and stability; something in the back could be related to backstabbing; if it is around the throat, it could indicate a person or situation who tried to prevent you from speaking your truth or a time when your voice was not heard or was misrepresented. Often, gaining clarity on a cord’s significance can help us to begin the process of clearing. Sometimes, you may know exactly to what person or situation it is connected. The person or past events may come up in your mind as a way of telling you that something needs to be healed there. You can visualize the cord filling with golden light and gently dissolving. Once it is gone, send love and healing to the area of your body where it was, and see that area filling with golden light and then mending as it heals over. You may wish to send love to the situation and anyone connected with it. You can call on your allies to support you through any part of this process, then thank them when you are done.

It can help to follow this with writing down what needs to be released. You can then burn the paper as a way of symbolically and energetically letting it go and releasing it to the universe to be cleared and transmuted so that you can begin your process of healing. Remember to be kind to yourself during the healing process, and to remember that healing is a journey. Journaling can be a therapeutic tool. Writing down what wisdom you learned from the experience can help you to gain clarity. You can also write down how you would like to move forward and how you would like your next experiences to be better as a way of setting intentions and bringing in positive energy to replace the energy that you have cleared or are clearing. Emotional release can be powerfully cleansing; honoring your need to let go of past emotions through tears or any other method that is brimming to the surface is incredibly therapeutic. We are not meant to stifle our emotions or keep them inside, as this only prevents us from letting go and builds the energy until, one day, the dam bursts. Taking salt baths and walks in nature can also be helpful, as these methods can help restore us energetically and bring us energetic purification and greater clarity. You may find that talking with a trusted friend or spending time with animals is helpful. Art may be your master healer; you don’t even have to be very good at it! Some find great solace in listening to music or playing a musical instrument. Getting in the flow state, however we reach it, helps us to process and heal on levels that we are often not consciously aware of. Feeling joy and allowing ourselves to experience laughter and fun are some of the best therapies in existence. Above all, trust your instinct when it comes to the methods you feel will be helpful to you.

Taking the time to really go deep and examine the emotions behind a situation, and what we are still holding onto, can be exactly what we need. Are we holding onto something for fear of letting go? Would we feel guilty for moving on? Behind our resistance to releasing something is sometimes the need to feel secure. When we examine something in depth, it can force us to look at what we don’t want to look at and can shake our sense of stability. Life was just fine; why look under the rug? The thing to remember is that you owe it to yourself to sweep out the debris of your life so that you can stand on truly solid footing. And sometimes, that means taking a deep look at some heavy subjects and memories so that you can dredge them up out of the waters of your subconscious and clear them out for good. It’s important that we pay attention to our feelings. What is ready to be released has a way of bobbing back up to the surface repeatedly until we get out the scuba gear and the net and take a deep dive to fish it out of the waters and cast it out for good. We owe ourselves that. We deserve to live our best possible lives, free and clear and unencumbered by the past.

Some may find that letting go is a decision. It often starts with the desire to heal and move on from something. This establishes an intention energetically, and when you follow that with a clearly stated intention, whether spoken or written, it adds more power to the momentum of your desire and keeps it building and growing as you go through the process. You may feel guided to take certain steps along the way to facilitate your journey. We are all unique, and we all heal in different ways. What’s most important is to honor yourself throughout the process. Making time for yourself, however hectic your schedule may be, is crucial. There are times when we need to put ourselves first. When we allow ourselves the time and space to process and heal, we can show up as better and more authentic versions of ourselves, both for us and for the people in our lives.