The Importance of Healing Emotional Wounds

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It’s so easy to leave a hurtful or difficult experience unprocessed and simply shift our attention to things that make us feel better or distract us or otherwise help us to forget, at least temporarily, about the pain or discomfort around the situation. Most of us are so good at doing this that we do it automatically. It’s important to be aware that the energy of an experience and the emotions around it don’t automatically go away. That energy can be lodged in our vibration until we shine a light on it by focusing our attention on the experience or situation and feel the emotional impact of it in order to process it. Holding the intention of shifting it out of our vibration and healing from it is a simple but powerful way of releasing something that does not serve us. For energies that are lodged more deeply or that are heavier, this begins the process of clearing them from us. Setting the intention of clearing, releasing, and transmuting (healing) the energies moves them away from us and ensures they do not return.

As we clear and release old energies, a funny thing happens. The more we release what doesn’t serve us, the more room we make for what does. The release shifts our vibration powerfully and increases our ability to draw to us more of what we want, as long as we keep our attention and intentions focused on what we desire to bring into our experience rather than looking at negatives and the things we don’t want. It is a gradual process that happens one clearing at a time but has a powerful cumulative effect. Starting the process now and continuing it every time an unpleasant emotion or memory arises will carry you on a powerful path of healing that leads you to the best version of yourself.

Awareness is essential. Notice when an unpleasant memory or feeling comes up and know that it is arising because it is ready to be released. This is a great opportunity to clear it out of your experience. You can simply sit with the feeling or memory and set the intention that you keep any lessons from the experience that serve your highest good and release the rest. This can be an emotional process as you sit with something unpleasant or uncomfortable. The key is to release it—to let it go with forgiveness to yourself and forgiveness to others. Forgiving others releases you from any harmful connections and from your attachment to the situation. Forgiving yourself is so important, as you can’t really move on from something until you’ve done this. Call on your highest-vibrational allies to support you with this process if you like.

Remember that you are powerful and that true power comes from alignment with the highest energies: compassion, love, peace, bliss, wisdom, grace.

Sympathetic Magic and Tarot

Pagan Otherworlds Tarot by Uusi
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Sympathetic magic is based on the law of attraction, whose tenet is simple: like attracts like. This can serve our manifestations and sacred practice through the simple use of representational instruments, such as coins for prosperity and pomegranates for fertility, to name a few examples. The idea is that objects with energies related to what you are seeking to manifest help draw more of the same; placing these items in a sacred space or throughout your home (especially in the related feng shui guas) is common practice. Tarot cards are wonderfully various in their pictorial representations of many fundamental facets of life, such as happiness, abundance, family, strength, and so on, which makes them ideal for use in sympathetic magic.

As many of you know, I do a daily card draw through my social media accounts for the collective. Often, this is a single card, but sometimes the universe delivers more. Today’s card turned out to be the Nine of Cups, a card often associated with windfalls, inheritances, and lucky winnings. Being that it is in the suit of Cups, it is also linked to the emotional realm. And because nines are associated with completion, this card carries an aspect of emotional fulfillment, happiness, harmony, and generosity. The image of the wealthy tavern keeper is often associated with this card, especially in the Rider-Waite-Smith deck. In the deck I use primarily for readings, the Pagan Otherworlds tarot by Uusi, the Nine of Cups features a frog sitting on a riverbank. Frogs can symbolize a leap into something new, as well as abundance, fertility, purification, rebirth, and renewal.

If I drew this card and wanted to set up a ritual or spell around it based on sympathetic magic, I might begin by placing it in an area of significance or sacred space, along with objects associated with what I am looking to draw in. I could light a candle to meditate on my intention and goals, visualizing the outcome I want to manifest in as much detail as possible. When visualizing, if you find yourself getting hung up on details, it’s best to keep it general and focus on the feeling of what you’re after, i.e., the feeling of abundance, fulfillment, happiness, and so on.

Sympathetic magic can be as simple or complex as you like; you can set up a single card or include numerous objects, herbs, crystals, and whatever else you like. As always, you should trust your instincts. It’s nice to have the energetic support of corresponding objects, but ultimately, all you really need is intention. The most important energetic component of all is always going to be what is in your vibration, as that is the ultimate determination of what you attract to you.

The Wisdom of Tarot

Not surprisingly, The World card comes in for the collective today, coinciding with this weekend’s new moon. New moons are a time of seeding intentions, a time that supports the writing out—and speaking aloud—of the things we wish to breathe into being. This card aligns with the new moon energy perfectly. It tells of promising new beginnings and a new cycle coming into existence. This is a time in which we are powerfully supported by these universal energies—in which success, accolades, honors, and achievements can all be ours.

So often, the cards we receive align in this way, so perfectly with the supporting energies, whether those energies are universal or personal. This tells us something. Tarot holds a particular wisdom. It reveals the unseen, the energies and hidden dynamics that are working on our behalf behind the scenes, and the groundwork that is being laid for us. It holds up a mirror to show us where we can improve and where we are headed, given the current circumstances.

Looked at another way, everything is attraction. We live in an attraction universe. The tenet of the Law of Attraction, a sibling to the Law of Gravity, is simply this: that which is like unto itself is drawn. The cards we attract show us where we are, reflect our current vibration, revealing to us what we are attracting into our lives.

That is, perhaps, tarot’s highest purpose. This form of divination is a mirror reflecting back to us our own state of being. The beauty of knowing where we currently stand is that we can shift our vibration, our focus, at any time. We can always redirect, reroute, and change course. We can always change our minds. We are never locked into any specific endeavor.

Life is a palette of contrasts, a magnificent artist’s toolkit with seemingly infinite variety. We get to sift through all the materials at our disposal and determine what it is we want to create, where we are headed next, what we are reaching for as we grow, change, and evolve.

It is an infinite dance we are participating in, one of continual seeking and finding, desiring and receiving, as we climb the ladder of our own growth and evolution. And we can thank the tarot for being a guiding light along the way.

For the Collective: A Reading for Right Now

This reading is all about about manifestation, about creating what it is we desire, about constantly moving toward what we want and away from what we don’t. It is about focusing our thoughts and standing strong in our beliefs and in our knowing of who we are and in the unequivocal understanding of our own true power so that we can manifest our desired results.

It’s interesting that the first card to fall out for this spread represents the current moon phase, indicating that what follows is significant to the collective for the energies as they are right now. The first thing that strikes me about these cards is all of the generative energy—not just the Page of Wands and the Knight of Wands, but also The Magician holding his wand and the Page of Swords wielding his sword. This speaks to new beginnings as well as manifestation, which starts with our thoughts and beliefs. 

Read from the top row, left to right, this current phase is one in which we are learning to use our willpower, learning how to be better creators of our own reality. These energies are represented by the Page of Wands—who is blindfolded, looking inward and trusting his instincts as he ventures into the brave unknown of creating and manifesting in his world. He leads to the Knight of Wands, who brings good news, perhaps regarding manifestations coming into being and new opportunities, and the Three of Wands, which signifies manifestation, dreams becoming reality, developing goals and seeing them manifest in the physical realm. Two of the wands on this card are, significantly, set apart together on the right side of the card, symbolizing the co-creative partnership between you and your inner being, which brings about a physical manifestation, represented by the third wand on the left side of the card. 

On the bottom row, the Page of Swords has the skills he needs to succeed but he is still learning how to implement that knowledge in the real world. This page encourages us to set goals, branch out, and test ourselves by learning new things and thinking in fresh and different ways, approaching what we do with new methodologies and applying them on a practical level. It could also indicate beginning a new career or project that has to do with ideas and communication. This card encourages us to learn as much as we can, to study and gain practical knowledge as well as wisdom, and put those skills and new knowledge to use to give us the greatest chances for success. The sword represents thought and focus, and in regards to manifestation, focused thought is key.

Focusing only on what we want brings about the desired results, as The Magician knows. He wields his wand with confidence, looking toward his goals, knowing that he is manifesting them. He reminds us that confidence is key in bringing about our desired results. Where the page above him is just learning how manifest, The Magician is the more experienced and mature version that the page will ultimately become. This master manifestor is significantly positioned beneath the page, supporting him much like our higher selves support us.

The King of Cups is in touch with his emotions. He is inward-looking like the Page of Wands, but he is the still more mature version, the page all grown up. This king is thoughtful, wise, and loving. He can represent a supportive figure in our lives or he can be a symbolic archetype, urging us to master our emotions, not letting them overwhelm us, but rather encouraging us to take a deep dive into our emotional terrain to fully understand and process and work through everything it is that we are feeling, to clear out and release what doesn’t belong, what is holding us back, and to get in touch with our emotions and our emotional guidance system so we understand that when we are feeling negative emotions, it is an indicator that we need to recalibrate—possibly by exploring and clearing old beliefs and energies and always to get into alignment with our all-knowing inner being.

In this way, we can navigate our thoughts and our emotions, releasing ourselves from limiting beliefs, which are represented by The Eight of Swords. This card shows us in a prison of our own making, the imprisonment of self-imposed beliefs and thoughts that constrain us, that keep us from moving forward and manifesting our desires. It is significant that this eight appears under the Three of Wands, an indicator that we are blocking our manifestations with resistant beliefs. 

This reading indicates a progression, a journey of manifestation. We start off blindfolded, feeling our way through life, then at some point, for some of us, the blindfold is removed and we face things head-on, as the Knight of Wands is here looking directly outward, facing the audience, as it were. In the next step of this progression, we begin looking toward what we want to create in our reality, as here, the Page of Swords looks toward The Magician as he learns and gains wisdom and begins to manifest with ease, and The Magician in turn looks toward the older, more experienced King of Cups, who understands that emotions are everything. The King of Cups is who we become when we reach maturity as truly masterful manifestors. This king knows that we get what we feel; we attract what we are vibrating at, limited only by our thoughts and beliefs. The goal as powerful creators of our own reality is to be unlimited, or rather, to realize that we already are unlimited, and to break free from the thought-prisons of our own making, to release ourselves from the self-imposed constraints of our own beliefs. 

Abraham-Hicks teaches that there are two ways to go about manifesting something—the hard way and the easy way. The former is accomplished by hard work and effort, which is slow going, often exhausting, and brings about minimal results. The easy way is to let go of all resistance in the form of self-limiting beliefs and thinking along the lines of we don’t deserve something or we can’t have it or it’s beyond our reach, and fully trusting, fully knowing, fully believing, and fully allowing everything that we want, being 100% in receiving mode. This state of complete allowing lets everything we want to flow to us.

Because we create our own realities, we get what we believe; we get what we focus on. When we free ourselves from self-limiting beliefs by truly knowing our own power, understanding that we are creators and divine, remembering that we are one of One, that we create our own realities, and stand strong and true in that knowledge, we manifest whatever it is we are focusing on, whatever that may be. 

February: A Very Manifestational Month

It’s hard to believe we’re already in the second month of 2020! It’s going by so fast, with so many changes happening, both energetically and on the physical level. The energy feels like the VIII of Wands, as we are hurtling toward our destinations, whether we know where we are going or not, with a fast-moving energy that is supporting us in creating the lives we desire, manifesting our goals, and bringing to fruition all that we have been focusing on.

February is a “2” month, indicating partnerships, alliances, and alignment: the alignment of you with your inner being, your co-creative partnership with your higher self. It is also a month where new relationships of all kinds–professional, platonic, romantic, and spiritual–are coming into being and forces are uniting to bring together their unique power in a single, focused mission or intent that strengthens the collaboration. The forces together are stronger than they are separately, and their unity creates a force all its own that combines the strengths, attributes, and energies of the disparate parts.

With so much energy moving so rapidly, there is a fine line between surrender and maintaining focus. While on the one hand, it can be important to direct these energies so that we don’t lose focus, surrendering and allowing are key. We can maintain a healthy balance by keeping our sights set only on what we want, by keeping our minds focused there and not giving any attention to circumstances or conditions that are undesirable, which keeps the desired results active in our vibration and attracts more of the same to us (thank you, Law of Attraction!).

At the same time, we need to be in receiving mode, allowing our manifestations to enter our lives in physical, tangible form. When we laugh and experience moments of joy, appreciation, and gratitude, we let it in, releasing resistance and feeling fully the wholeness of who we are. This month, take pleasure in the fact that you are a being of light and abundance, that this is your divine nature, and enjoy the fact that you create your own reality. Your vibration, your emotions, and your beliefs are something you have complete control over. Isn’t that nice to know?

Healing with Tarot

Reading tarot can bring wisdom and enlightenment, and the cards are often a guiding light for us, showing us the way out of dark places, out of the muck and confusion we sometimes find ourselves caught in. If you find yourself there, it can be helpful to take a moment to just breathe and sit in stillness, coming back to yourself, back to your own awareness and acknowledging whatever thoughts come to you.

Whatever you are thinking about is an indicator of your vibrational standpoint, and becoming aware of this is helpful in showing you what you need to clear, what energies you are still holding onto, and any limiting beliefs you may have running in your subconscious or in the background that you weren’t consciously aware of.

Breathe through whatever comes up and release it simply by holding the intention of releasing it. Then replace it with the thoughts, beliefs, or energies you want to have instead, such as joy, peace, health, wisdom, alignment, clarity, or prosperity–or all of the above. Even simply thinking those words over and over will bring their energies into your vibrational field.

According to Abraham-Hicks, it takes 17 seconds to get the momentum going and for law of attraction to pick up on something. Simply sitting with thoughts of peace, joy, and abundance for as little as 17 seconds can start making a difference in your energy, thoughts, and emotions. It also shifts your vibrational standpoint, which is key considering that you attract whatever you are feeling, whatever is in your vibration.

When we do this important inner work, tarot can be a helpful tool in showing us how we have shifted our vibration through the cards that come up. These can show us what we are attracting and what is coming next based on the current state of things.

Spiritual teacher Cristina Aroche teaches that healing is a lifelong journey, that we are always healing. Like peeling the layers of an onion, we heal on deeper and deeper levels. As you go through this process, it is important to be patient with yourself, to love yourself, and let yourself feel through everything so you can let it go for good, keeping, of course what supports you and releasing what no longer serves.