Changes and Transitions

Autumn, tree in fall
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Gone are the bright, airy blooms of spring and the swollen fruits of summer. The season we are now entering into is one of preparation. Its fruits are hearty and meant to sustain us through the cold and barren months, the period of dormancy when nature slumbers on the surface as deeper transformations occur, unseen, beneath the surface in the dark womb of earth, in the hearth of winter’s becoming. In this time before the chill begins to bite, we cast off what has had its day and draw near to us what will sustain us. We welcome those we hold dear in close conversation and heart-centered communion.

As I write this, fall is only days away in the Northern Hemisphere, and the Southern Hemisphere is preparing to enter a season of growth. All of life is flowing in an ancient dance as one season merges into the next with perfect harmony and fluidity. Change can sometimes be this seamless for us, one step leading to another in a natural progression. We may look up one day and suddenly realize how much our lives have changed, although the process has been gradual. This year especially has been one of unprecedented transformation. Often, periods of intense change are accompanied by major growth. Collectively and individually, we are experiencing rapid transformations and powerful personal and spiritual shifts.

The transition of summer into autumn is beautiful for us to witness, and we do well to honor our own personal changes with as much reverence. We can take a few cues from nature by navigating those changes gracefully, flowing with the transitions in our lives without resisting them, honoring the improvements the shifts are bringing, uncomfortable as they may be. When we do this, not only do we have a much more enjoyable experience, we also open ourselves to receive much greater benefit by being in the energy of allowing. Rather than blocking the energies that are flowing to us with our resistance, we are flowing with them by allowing them to work for our betterment.

Fall is a great opportunity for us to focus our intentions as we work toward creating positive change in our lives—the seasonal energy is supporting this. Now is the time to make major changes, launch new creative and business endeavors, and plan for improvements of all kinds. Whether we realize it or not, we are impacted by the energies all around us, including the transition from one season to the next. In autumn, nature itself is clearing out what has served its purpose, and what has lived its full season. This is a time to clear the deadwood, energetically and physically. To encourage positive change in our lives, it is important to first make room for it by clearing what does not serve us. Clearing starts the energy flowing to us and around us in healthy, beneficial ways.

We can benefit from clearing clutter from our physical environment (which is a great Feng shui practice that is beneficial to do year-round). This could mean riffling through your closet and donating things you haven’t worn in the past year or going through paperwork, files, and email and clearing out what is no longer necessary. These physical actions create shifts that usher out stagnant energies to make room for what is fresh and new and allows the energy to flow in positive ways.

It is also important to clear ourselves energetically. There are so many ways to do this, but bathing in Epsom salts and grounding are great practices to incorporate into your routine. You can also visualize white or golden light surrounding you and the spaces you live in while setting the intention that the light purifies the energy and creates a powerful forcefield of protection around you and your loved ones, pets, home, and property. You can expand this light out to your neighborhood, community, city, and beyond—even visualizing it wrapping around the entire planet to bring peace, healing, and light to all.

As we prepare energetically for the path that lies before us, it is important to stay centered and focused on what truly matters, both in the now and as we visualize the best possible outcomes that we would like to enter into as we continually move forward.

Claiming Your Sovereignty

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As the world shifts and changes in profound ways, it is now more important than ever to stand strong in our truth and in our light. Many of us are awakening to ever-deepening levels of awareness and to a greater understanding of our life path and purpose. The veil is being lifted, and while we are all connected, the ways we each experience this unveiling depends on our unique path. This increasing clarity and awareness often happens layer by layer; we gain greater insights as we are ready to receive and understand them. As we gain new perspectives, such as an awareness of who we truly are and who we are meant to be in this lifetime (understanding that this can evolve throughout our lives as we grow), staying in our lane and staying in our light is so important, especially in the current energetic landscape.

Maintaining our connection to the heart and practicing compassion and kindness are some of the most powerful ways we can navigate the world and our own lives. Our connection to the heart allows us to stayed attuned to our intuition and our highest guidance so we can make the best choices and live in alignment with our truth. From that place of alignment, we become aware of our true power and gain the clarity that we are already free; we are already sovereign. Knowing this helps us to stand strong in our integrity and navigate life in a way that is right for us. It guides the thoughts we think, which create our reality and inform the decisions that we make. It’s the difference between being under the influence of our higher power or not.

It can be helpful to remind ourselves of our inherent sovereignty anytime we realize we are feeling oppressed, controlled, powerless, or helpless. We cannot be controlled unless we allow ourselves to be, because true power comes from within. A simple yet effective mantra is: I am already free. I am already sovereign. I am the creator of my own reality. Focusing on those words while breathing deeply, sitting with the intention, seeing yourself as sovereign, and really feeling your own power can stop the momentum of unwanted feelings. Coming back to this practice over and over, as often as you need to, helps shift your energy and beliefs over time through focused effort, concentration, and practice.

Remembering our inner power and inherent freedom helps us to flow with the heart-centered connection we have to the highest aspects of ourselves. When we become aware of our sovereignty and true inner strength, we can respect the freedom and individuality of others, whether or not we agree with their choices. We are ultimately and primarily responsible for ourselves, the ways in which we navigate the world, and the choices that we make. Claiming responsibility for our own alignment and choices is a way of claiming our sovereignty and standing in our individual power and integrity.

Knowing Your Worthiness

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Each one of us is worthy. The only thing that holds us back from that knowledge is ourselves. We are all here to learn and grow, and part of that process involves making mistakes. We can all look back at choices we made with the clarity of hindsight and recognize what the better choice might have been. But did we learn from the situation? That is what is most important.

It doesn’t serve us to hold onto regret or guilt; those emotions only keep us stuck in the past and block us from moving forward and experiencing the happiness we all deserve. It is helpful to look back to acknowledge what a situation taught us, but not to wallow in the negatives. Forgiving ourselves is so important. It is just as important to forgive others and to let go of resentment, which also keep us tied to the past in ways that are unhealthy and prevent us from experiencing the beauty life has to offer.

When you make a mistake, acknowledging it and setting the intention to release it with love and forgiveness to yourself is a powerful way to begin moving forward. Using a similar process to forgive others also helps clear those energies and blockages. The more we forgive ourselves and others, the more we can connect to our sense of self-worth and to an understanding of the unique value we have to offer, both to ourselves and to the world. Now is a time of tremendous karmic clearing, so trust your intuition if you feel like you need to make something right with somebody to clear the energy.

The more we heal, the more we strengthen our connection to what is real, to what is within us—our divine, sacred energy. When we remember that we are sourced from the divine, it is easy to recognize why each one of us is worthy. That is not to say that we are all worthy in the same way, because our individuality means we each have something unique to offer. Every one of us is here to show up in a specific way. By connecting more strongly to our sense of self, we ground further in the knowing of our unique, individual value.

Knowing that we are worthy—of happiness, of thriving, of living a joyful and abundant life—creates powerful shifts in our mindset and in our lives. This knowing guides us along the path to better understanding the reasons we are here and the powerful ways we can show up for ourselves and others. It really changes everything. Our eyes open to new clarity, awareness, and opportunities, and we begin to see ourselves and the world around us in a new light. Every experience and encounter becomes sacred and is an opportunity for joyful expansion, connection, and a chance to create or share or learn something meaningful.

The Importance of Healing Emotional Wounds

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It’s so easy to leave a hurtful or difficult experience unprocessed and simply shift our attention to things that make us feel better or distract us or otherwise help us to forget, at least temporarily, about the pain or discomfort around the situation. Most of us are so good at doing this that we do it automatically. It’s important to be aware that the energy of an experience and the emotions around it don’t automatically go away. That energy can be lodged in our vibration until we shine a light on it by focusing our attention on the experience or situation and feel the emotional impact of it in order to process it. Holding the intention of shifting it out of our vibration and healing from it is a simple but powerful way of releasing something that does not serve us. For energies that are lodged more deeply or that are heavier, this begins the process of clearing them from us. Setting the intention of clearing, releasing, and transmuting (healing) the energies moves them away from us and ensures they do not return.

As we clear and release old energies, a funny thing happens. The more we release what doesn’t serve us, the more room we make for what does. The release shifts our vibration powerfully and increases our ability to draw to us more of what we want, as long as we keep our attention and intentions focused on what we desire to bring into our experience rather than looking at negatives and the things we don’t want. It is a gradual process that happens one clearing at a time but has a powerful cumulative effect. Starting the process now and continuing it every time an unpleasant emotion or memory arises will carry you on a powerful path of healing that leads you to the best version of yourself.

Awareness is essential. Notice when an unpleasant memory or feeling comes up and know that it is arising because it is ready to be released. This is a great opportunity to clear it out of your experience. You can simply sit with the feeling or memory and set the intention that you keep any lessons from the experience that serve your highest good and release the rest. This can be an emotional process as you sit with something unpleasant or uncomfortable. The key is to release it—to let it go with forgiveness to yourself and forgiveness to others. Forgiving others releases you from any harmful connections and from your attachment to the situation. Forgiving yourself is so important, as you can’t really move on from something until you’ve done this. Call on your highest-vibrational allies to support you with this process if you like.

Remember that you are powerful and that true power comes from alignment with the highest energies: compassion, love, peace, bliss, wisdom, grace.

Standing Strong in Your Integrity

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Because everything is energy, what you think and feel matters above all. This is because your thoughts and feelings inform your vibration, which equals your point of attraction. It is so important to maintain integrity in your thinking and not allow anything to sway you from your truth, your path, or your highest good. This is a powerful way to healing, as we continue to be self-aware and monitor our thoughts and feelings, catching what is not in alignment with high-vibrational energies and redirecting to what is. You can turn around thoughts of self-doubt to I can accomplish my goals, I am capable of great things, and I have something valuable to offer that will help people in a way that elevates them. This is a choice that you make—to monitor your thoughts and change them for the better. You are powerful beyond measure, and you have free will. This means you have the ability to make the decisions that are in alignment with your highest path and purpose and you have the ability to connect to high-vibrational energies to receive your highest guidance and wisdom.

Integrity applies in every area of your life. Do you help someone when you see them struggling? Do you offer support to those around you who need it? How do you react when someone is not acting from a place of alignment—do you let their lower energy sway you or do you stand in your truth and choose not to respond to those energies? Choosing integrity every time, staying on your path, and always acting from a place of your highest good is so important, as it spreads good energy around you and also strengthens your own. When we realize we are all connected, helping others becomes second nature. Helping others from a place of integrity is key, and it is important to remember that we never know what someone is going through. Everyone’s reality is different, and approaching everyone from a place of non-judgment is especially important. We are all here to experience life in a different way, according to our highest path and purpose.

This life is a journey, and we can choose to be aware and learn everything we can from our experiences, to reflect on them to glean what wisdom and higher understanding we can from them, and to use what we have learned to help others. The way we show up in the world is so important—the way we show up for ourselves and for others creates a tremendous impact that can leave the world a better place.

Healing Spaces

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Sixteen years ago, I left the desert and never looked back. Since then, I’ve gained an appreciation for the austerity of that landscape that has been largely brought about by time, distance, and perspective. The desert is purifying, a place stripped bare, pared down to the essentials. Its energy too has a way of peeling back layers, dissolving everything that isn’t needed, whatever doesn’t serve, all excess and unnecessary energy. In this process, the desert poses several questions: Do you need it, is it helpful, is it weighing you down, is it holding you back, why are you still carrying it, what lessons have you learned from it, what wisdom is yours to keep?

Nature is deeply healing, without question. Lush, fragrant forests rich with moss and deep green chambers flow through the heart and give balm to the spirit. In the ocean, a yoga teacher once told me, every crashing wave holds all the sounds the human body needs to hear, sounds that clear us and heal us through sonic frequencies. The mountains bring clarity and perspective; they challenge heart and mind to ascend, to be more, to rise above, to consider the importance of all we hold dear, to sort the wheat from the chaff. Every landscape holds a different energy. Cities, states, countries, have their own energy, and certainly different landscapes do, too.

These different landscapes are healing spaces that interact with us on another level, one we don’t consciously sense. It’s atoms talking to atoms, energy flowing into energy. For those reasons, we may be drawn to certain areas in nature without understanding exactly why. It’s important that we trust our natural instinct, our desire to be in those places, and to follow our heart there. They have unique wisdom to impart to us, a particular sort of healing. To commune with nature is to connect to a greater aspect of the divine, of which we are all a part.

Protecting Your Energy

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When we consider that everything is energy, including ourselves, it gives us an understanding of how easy it is to be affected by the things we read, the conversations we hear, and the potential impact of the invisible world around us. Because we are energy, we can also absorb energy. And although we cannot see it in the form of feelings, thoughts, and emotions, these energies are very real and a crucial part of the fabric that weaves our reality together. It almost goes without saying that it is important to protect our energy. Even more so in times of difficulty or adjustment, and especially during periods of upheaval and massive global shifts like we are experiencing now. If you are sensitive to energy, the need to protect yourself multiplies.

I recommend clearing your energy field during meditation on a daily basis and anytime you begin feeling heavy or weighed down. When we absorb energies that do not belong to us, we can experience this as anxiety or sadness or anger, or any emotion that seems to arrive out of the blue. We may also start feeling uncomfortable but cannot pinpoint exactly why, and this could be because we have picked up on something that is not our own. It is so important for our mental and emotional health that we clear anything that does not belong to us and keep our field clear by putting up a protective barrier that we reinforce on a regular basis to shield us against anything that is not for our highest good.

There are several ways to create this barrier. One powerful method is through visualization. You can enter a quiet, reflective space with no distractions around you and visualize an energetic forcefield surrounding you past the outer layer of your aura. Try visualizing this as a sphere with a strong external layer like a thick shell that surrounds you and fills your aura with golden light. Gold is a high-vibrational color that can strengthen your protection and bring you healing and peace. You can set the intention that the only energies that may enter your field are those that are for your highest good, and nothing else may enter. As you make this visualization part of your daily practice, you solidify the barrier more and more with your belief and intention, and in the process, you become better at visualization, which, like many things, improves with practice.

Just as we engage in rituals of physical cleanliness on a regular basis, protecting our energy is an important part of self-care that ensures our energetic cleanliness. In this way, we can make sure we are always our best (and truest) selves as we navigate through life and interact in our relationships, in our careers, and in the way we show up in the world.

Sending Peace and Healing to the World: A Meditation

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Now more than ever, it is important for us to focus on healing. Everyone, including light workers, has an obligation to do the inner work, to heal ourselves first, before we show up for anyone else, and to notice, on an ongoing basis, what comes to the surface to be processed and cleared, to be acknowledged and healed. It is so important that when we are done processing and clearing, we invite the energies we wish to embody, such as peace, healing, and divine light, or whatever it is we need. Compassion is something that is so needed right now and, like any other energy we invite in, we can set the intention of integrating it into our field. There are many ways to do this, but here is one meditation that works for me. Of course, you can adjust it as you like.

To begin, go to a quiet space where you will have privacy (away from distractions and furry friends). To enter the meditative space, sit comfortably with your eyes closed and focus on your breath. Breathe deeply and envision your energy field as a sphere that surrounds you past the outer layer of your aura, which extends past the tips of your fingers when you have your arms outstretched. Breathe in light, then exhale it into your field. Do this for as long as you need to fill your energy field entirely with light. Then imagine this sphere of energy surrounded with a layer of protection. You can set the intention that this protective layer allows in only energies that serve your highest good, and that all else immediately bounces off and is returned to sender via Source. I recommend re-energizing and strengthening this boundary every day.

Once you feel your protective layer is stabilized, you can envision low-vibrational energies and energies that do not serve your highest good clearing and releasing. If specific situations come to mind, know that they are rising to the surface to be released. Notice any energy you feel. You can release unwanted energies by naming them specifically; for example, you can say (to yourself is fine) something like, “I clear and release all energies of anxiety.” Or, “I release this situation with love. It is no longer part of my energy and it is now cleared and transmuted.” If you can feel energy, you may feel a physical sensation of something lifting from you each time you do this. You can call on your allies to support as you go through the energies and situations one at a time and ask that they transmute the energy into the highest form of light. When you feel clear, you can invite the energies of healing, peace, divine light, and compassion, or any energies you choose, and set the intention that they integrate into your field (your allies will help with this).

Once you feel the energy is stable, you can begin to send healing to the planet by envisioning, setting the intention, or asking your allies to release all energies from the planet that do not serve the highest good of humanity and ask that they are transmuted into the highest possible form of light. You can then send peace, healing, and compassion to everyone around the world. I like to envision this as light surrounding the entire globe that sends the energy to everyone who is willing to receive it. You can ask your allies, the universal forces, the angels, Source, or whomever you feel guided to call on to support you in sending out and integrating this energy.

One type of healing that is so needed right now is ancestral. When we enter into a physical body, we also enter into a family lineage whose past experiences are encoded into our DNA. With that lineage comes family karma. We can set the intention to clear and release family karma and clear ancestral energies that do not serve our highest good, and to clear the energies that are ready to be released, that do not have any place on the planet, that are holding us back from elevating into our highest path and potential, and that are keeping us from living in alignment and in our highest truth. Archangel Michael is a powerful ally to call on when performing this type of clearing, but of course, you can call on any allies you wish. Doing this work in the meditative space helps to focus the mind and our efforts so that we can draw on our power to release these energies from ourselves and from the planet for good as we welcome in healing, unity, and compassion.

We are all one, and the more we realize that we are all in this together as spiritual beings experiencing a human existence, the more we will be able to heal and make powerful forward progress, so that we can expand and grow as individuals and as a collective. When we look at others through this lens of oneness, we experience life differently. We have more compassion and are more willing to help others because we understand that the good of one is the good of all.

Substance Abuse in the Time of COVID-19

Today, when I carried the recycling out to my community’s shared bin, I saw that it was full of empty brown glass bottles. Since the lockdown, alcohol consumption has noticeably increased. I’ve seen it in little ways all around me. I quickly realized that this is a small example of a much more widespread problem, and immediately sent energies of healing and well-being to everyone in the global community who is dealing with addiction of any kind. Substances can be a way of putting a barrier in front of our feelings, a way of distancing ourselves from negative emotions, a way of not feeling the things we don’t want to feel. Without that barrier, our emotions rise up to meet us.

The reasons we might turn to substances are as varied as the rainbow spectrum of pain. Sometimes, it’s just a momentary escape. Other times, it’s out of sheer boredom. And much of the time, it’s because it makes us feel better than we were feeling before. There is a saying, The only way out is through, that applies here. We have to feel it to fix it. Fixing it often means acknowledging and letting go—of the past, and of the things that no longer serve us, whether those are beliefs, memories, thoughts, habits, or feelings. We can always heal, we just have to be willing to put in the work. Healing requires loving ourselves enough to realize we’re worth the effort that it takes to clear and release what isn’t helping us, what is holding us back, what is limiting us, and what does not have any useful place in our lives.

One way of letting go can be to sit with the feeling, belief, thought, or energy, and acknowledge it, then release it with intention. You can call on any nonphysical allies to support you, whether that’s God, or your spirit guides, the angels, Universal energies, or whomever you feel moved to call on. Releasing with intention simply means that you intend to release it. You can say, to yourself or out loud, I clear and release this. As you work through releasing more and more, you may begin to feel lighter as the heavy energies lift from you. After releasing, invite the energies you do want. For example, you can say (or think), I welcome in the energies of love, light, healing, and peace.

The more you practice letting go, the easier it gets. And the more you let go, the more clarity you gain. This clarity leads to greater insight and uplifting energies that support you in every way. The healing journey is deep, and it is often profound. It’s like going through a dark tunnel. When you’re in the tunnel, you often cannot see the light; you can’t see what is around you. You can’t see ahead of you. You just have to trust and keep going. Trust yourself, trust your allies, knowing that you are supported every step of the way and that the Universe has got your back. Eventually, you will be able to see the light. As you reach the end of the tunnel, you gain clarity. You begin to understand your own strength, and the wisdom you gained from the experiences you left behind. When you exit the tunnel, you will find that you are a different person than the one who entered it. That person is the best version of you.

We are always healing, on some level, throughout our lives. You will find that some times are more intense than others in terms of what comes to the surface to be cleared and released. Know that those feelings and thoughts are not surfacing to torment you—they are rising up to the surface so you can let them go. They surface when they are ready to be released, when you are ready to release them. Knowing this can be a powerful source of support as you trust yourself more and more, knowing that you have the strength to let go of everything that rises up within you.

The Healing Journey

Healing is referred to as a journey because it takes place throughout our lives, and the path is rarely straight. We are many-layered beings, magnificent in our resiliency and in our ability to continually expand in our awareness. We are complex in our depth and extraordinary in our capacity for growth. For everything we know about ourselves, there may be ten thousand more that lie just beyond our awareness. Put simply, we are icebergs, with potential that reaches to depths unfathomable, as we navigate through much of our lives from the more physically focused aspect of our human experience, that forward-looking part of us that hovers above the surface in the realms of conscious awareness.

The series of blog posts that will fall under the umbrella of The Healing Journey will examine healing from a variety of aspects and modalities. There are many ways to heal, and what supports us shifts and changes over time, just as we do. For those reasons, various perspectives will be presented here, from teachers and healers from a variety of backgrounds, with varying methodologies. I will also be weighing in on the subject of healing and will share what has helped me as I have traveled my own journey.

Your questions are welcome. This is designed to be helpful to you, and suggestions for topics and things you are curious about will be considered as subjects for future posts. If you are reading this, you were led here for a reason, and I hope you benefit from the dialogue that is created here.

Love and light,
Victoria